By Jeff Altman, Big Game Hunter
“Being scared limiting what people try. Because of that if you don’t try, you’ll never succeed in anything. Try to fail but don’t be afraid to try. – Vinod Khosla
As I sat and heard, Scott told me about the things he assessed and considered. He told me about four different options that he weighed and said, “I have to make a choice.”
“What have you done to evaluate these options?”
“Not much,” he said honestly.
“Who told you to make a decision now?”
He ignored my question and told me he had to make a decision.
I attached.
“I don’t think you have enough information to make the decision you want to make. What do you not know about these choices and how can you find out more?”
I continued. “By the way, why haven’t you done anything yet?”
“I have, but I’m afraid to make the wrong choice.”
Often, the systems we live in have trained to operate within specific rules that limit our ability to fail and succeed.
For example, many students believe that when they complete high school, they have to choose their large field of study for college/university.
What should they do if they don’t know what their major should be? Should they commit to a university and spend $ 40,000 on their first year of teaching, room and table with the hope that they will find out in their second year? Should they pause when they finished high school before committing to the next step to evaluate their options?
Many young lawyers in the United States do not find that they do not like to be lawyers until they start practicing law. This is particularly disturbing because they have committed to repay loans over $ 200,000 for completion of college and attorney school.
Even more painful than the need to repay the loans is the feeling of shame that most people will talk about privately and must have a conversation with their parents to leave the law.
“But why?”
“You would make a good lawyer.”
“You only start.”
“You haven’t given it a reasonable chance!”
I use the example of lawyers in the United States. It could just as easily be the example of becoming a software developer in India, a government job in Saudi Arabia or social services or health position in the United States.
Why does this happen?
The most common reason I have found is that they jumped on a conveyor belt that led them through the school system into a career that they thought would be perfect for them, only to discover that it wasn’t.
For example, I grew up in New York and attended public schools, including a public university in New York. Early on, I learned a lesson from school that would serve me well for a few years at work. “
Be quiet
Do what we ask you to do when we ask you to do that
Regurgry the answers to our questions when we ask a question
Otherwise.
“Or other” was that I wouldn’t get into a good college.
Once in college, I rarely got the opportunity to think for myself. College and its classification system taught me a few lessons:
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Be quiet
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Do what we ask you to do when we ask you to do it.
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Regurgry the answers to our questions when we ask a question
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Otherwise. “Or other” was I wouldn’t get a good job.
As you can tell, I learned obedience and conformity and could have been a good factory worker around the 1970s because that’s what the school was preparing for me – thought like an industrial worker. It didn’t taught me how to learn about a potential career.
Nor did it taught me how to take a risk not to evaluate risks.
Now, many years later, I have taken the lessons I learned in the workplace, mixed in quality lessons from working with men around the United States, helping them live targeted lives and then mixed intuition and higher level. Now I support both men and women who are the people they want in their careers and lives.
I have noticed that many people are miserable both in their work and in their lives. They have accepted mediocrity and lack of passion. Every day is the same.
They have become part of a “transformation.” It is business figures for homogenized, pasteurized, systematized and otherwise be made mechanical -like.
They wonder why every day looks the same every day and not acknowledged that the reason is that every day is pretty much the same. They are part of zero-defective manufacturing culture and have been transformed into intelligent gear in a machine.
If it sounds guard like you I will remind you that a lifetime is not long. We like to think of ourselves as immortal, but life is a way of showing us how foolish we should act as if it was true.
How will you live between now and the inevitable conclusion of your life?
Just because you don’t know how to do it differently doesn’t mean you have to be withdrawn. It can’t be any different.
It can be.
You just don’t know how yet.
Start experimenting with various alternatives and maybe hire a coach to help you. It may look like you can talk to your wife, husband, partner, a close friend or others about it. And you can. However, most people know how to not listen to these people. That’s because there’s nothing on the line when you talk to one of them.
You look, like hiring a consultant at work, hiring a coach to help you is a further benefit – you pay for it and are therefore forced to act according to what you work with them.
If you are happy to do what you are doing, continue to do so. Thus, you need to make efforts to continue to improve so that you develop greater mastery, especially during this period when knowledge turns over every few years.
But if your life has already demonstrated ennui, boredom, lethargy and regularly asking yourself the question, “it’s all that is,” it’s time to change the equation to something else.
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Jeff Altman, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Jeff Altman, Big Game Hunter is a career and leader trainer who helps people with their careers, including a job search that hires more effectively, manages and leaders, solves workplace-related problems while they are the person they want to be in life. He has written 9 books and guides for job search and hiring, including “The Ultimate Job Interview Framework” and “The correct answers to hard interview questions.” He hosts No BS Job Search Advice Radio, No. 1 podcast in Apple Podcasts for Job Search with more than 2100 episodes as well as Jobsearchtv.com on YouTube, Amazon, Roku, Apple TV and 90+ Smart Sets. Jeff works with clients all over the world and is a popular speaker.
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