By Jeff Altman, Big Game Hunter
Imagine yourself at a cocktail party with your wife/partner/husband. People are actively mixed. To talk and move on to different people after a few minutes.
Someone goes to the two of you and say they are the friends of the host. You nod and ask a few polite questions.
“How do you know our host?”
“What are you doing?”
“Have you done it very long?”
And suddenly it happens.
They ask, “Can I borrow $ 50.”
You are surprised, make an excuse for why you don’t borrow them $ 50 and then move on to chatting with another. When you talk to that person and several others, your disturbance permeates to be asked for money conversations with others and actually keep you one night or two later.
“I hardly know them and they asked for money,” you think before you eventually have to sleep.
Isn’t it that most people have networks?
You call or e -email someone. Maybe you’re called someone; Maybe you don’t. Within 5 minutes you ask if this stranger or old acquaintance knows someone and can recommend you for a job.
Who will refer you? You are like the guy asking for $ 50 who thinks a stranger will reach out to their wallet and give you money.
That’s why I tell people that networks are really about meeting or being introduced to a stranger and building a relationship where, when you need each other, you are willing to help and support each other. It’s not about exchanging cards on the network evenly and saying, “Call me if you
Some of you may know that I moved to North Carolina two and a half years ago from the New York area. I belong to an international men’s organization and there is a chapter in the city; I started attending regular meetings on Wednesday night with some of the men.
Recently, one of them reported that he had operated to remove a tumor in the back; He is self -employed and should be unable for several weeks and rehabbers for quite a long time.
After the operation, he set a request for videos to borrow during rehabbing. A meal train was created for dinners to be delivered to him and his family.
I was very willing to help and planned myself to visit him on rehabilitation several times and deliver dinner to he and his family once out.
That’s the difference – a relationship was built.
If you work, now is the time to network and build the relationship over time.
If you are looking for work and have been told that networking is the way to find work, you must be patient, not desperate when you network. Listen and become a friend before you start asking for prospects. Help the other person and they want to help you.
â’¸ The Big Game Hunter, Inc., Asheville, NC 2013, 2023
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